I was waiting for the Principal's arrival to get an attestation for my son's grade statement at his school. A few known students and parents are seen at the campus. One of my son's classmate's father had come for the same reason. We discussed our ward's grades in exam and further admissions for PUC in colleges. His son who came late to the queue and joined with his father. I astonished by his look and verified with his name by saying. He smiled and his father laughed out loudly. "See, uncle doesn't recognize you in a matter of two months vacation..!" I said "of course, can't recognize since you have changed your hair style and very trendy costumes". He was looking in a pathetic hair dressing and a fade out t-shirt and very torn jeans. Earlier whenever, used to see him during open day -parents' meet he was in decent dress code. Now all of a sudden entirely changed.
The school attender asked only students to stand in a queue and parents could wait outside. We left from the queue and sat outside. His father accompanied me and he had noticed my reaction after seen his son's get-up transformation. He started the conversation, "Nowadays these boys are very adamant, conditional. When he was studying he felt very stress and waiting for the exams got over. As soon as exams finished, he went out and roamed for three days. All the malls he visited, had food outside from different restaurants. Took money from his mother, bought such three sets of clothes which I hate. Didn't groom himself for a month and suddenly came with such a hair style. I couldn't digest initially. But, at home his mother accepted and told let him the way he wants to be. I shouted and scolded him the way he behaved as only he had the stress from his exams".
I nodded my head and agreed what his opinion. Me too experienced the same thing. When my son returned from his last exam, neighbours all were saying same thing. "oh god, finally all exams got over. relax yourself. sleep, eat next one week. stress out yourself by visiting malls, roam with friends..!" Only after hearing all these my son felt that he was stressed and want to burst out the stress by doing such things. It took long time for me to explain nothing like that and no need of doing such non-sense activities.
He continued his agony, " I was told not to interfere much about it. I should allow them to free the life they want to be. I can't allow such things in the name of freedom! But, finally me only got tensed and stressed. My wife is casually taking and children are taking it granted. I became their villain in family. Not only my wife, the neighbours and family friends are accepting such idiotic way of life in the name of freedom. Earlier, we had discipline in everything even if it is in-formal or casual way of life." He couldn't continue thereafter, gasped. His son reached our place. Both left.
While return home, my son started "See, how David has changed pa. Looking nice. Have asked him whether his dad scold him for the hair style and attire. He replied as "why should he, it's my life and my freedom!" He just looked at my eyes and turned.
I don't understand whether my son expects me to allow such freedom to him or just shared what his friend has told.
The school attender asked only students to stand in a queue and parents could wait outside. We left from the queue and sat outside. His father accompanied me and he had noticed my reaction after seen his son's get-up transformation. He started the conversation, "Nowadays these boys are very adamant, conditional. When he was studying he felt very stress and waiting for the exams got over. As soon as exams finished, he went out and roamed for three days. All the malls he visited, had food outside from different restaurants. Took money from his mother, bought such three sets of clothes which I hate. Didn't groom himself for a month and suddenly came with such a hair style. I couldn't digest initially. But, at home his mother accepted and told let him the way he wants to be. I shouted and scolded him the way he behaved as only he had the stress from his exams".
I nodded my head and agreed what his opinion. Me too experienced the same thing. When my son returned from his last exam, neighbours all were saying same thing. "oh god, finally all exams got over. relax yourself. sleep, eat next one week. stress out yourself by visiting malls, roam with friends..!" Only after hearing all these my son felt that he was stressed and want to burst out the stress by doing such things. It took long time for me to explain nothing like that and no need of doing such non-sense activities.
He continued his agony, " I was told not to interfere much about it. I should allow them to free the life they want to be. I can't allow such things in the name of freedom! But, finally me only got tensed and stressed. My wife is casually taking and children are taking it granted. I became their villain in family. Not only my wife, the neighbours and family friends are accepting such idiotic way of life in the name of freedom. Earlier, we had discipline in everything even if it is in-formal or casual way of life." He couldn't continue thereafter, gasped. His son reached our place. Both left.
While return home, my son started "See, how David has changed pa. Looking nice. Have asked him whether his dad scold him for the hair style and attire. He replied as "why should he, it's my life and my freedom!" He just looked at my eyes and turned.
I don't understand whether my son expects me to allow such freedom to him or just shared what his friend has told.
